The first Mother's Day after someone has lost their mom can be very difficult. These special dates can be a wonderful opportunity to send a note to let your loved one know you are thinking of them. Whether you choose to write a letter in a handwritten card, a direct message, or an email, the simple act of connecting on these important days can go a long way in supporting your loved one.
What can I write?
Knowing what to say to someone who has lost their mom can be difficult. The most important thing is to let your friend know that you are thinking of them on this Mother’s Day.
Here are some examples of what you can include in your note:
- Thinking of you today...
- I am remembering your mom and what a wonderful influence she was...
- You are in my thoughts and prayers.
- I want you to know how much you are loved!
- Please know that I am always here for you.
- Sending thoughts and smiles your way...
- Sending you warm thoughts of love, hope and peace today.
- My heart is with you today...
- My thoughts are with you today...
You may also wish to include a memorable story about your loved one's mom and the positive impact she may have had on you.
What can I do?
If you decide to call your loved one, or if you see them in person, the best thing to do is to be there and listen. For those who are grieving, at times many people simply want their story heard or someone there with them. Even if you are sitting in silence, just being present can be a tremendous support for a grieving friend.
Be patient with your loved one. Grief is something that everyone deals with differently, and regardless of the death being expected or unexpected, last week or thirty years ago, Mother’s Day is a fresh reminder that their mother is not here with them to celebrate the day.
If you would like to extend an invitation to include your loved one in your Mother's Day plans, before making suggestions, be supportive on how they would like to spend the day. Even if they decline, just being invited can be helpful.